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Infertility
may be one of the most difficult experiences a
woman can have in her lifetime. The emotional
consequences of an infertility diagnosis can be
devastating, which may be little known to
patients and medical personnel. From a
psychological standpoint, infertility has
similarities to other chronic illnesses. (Pamela Fawcett Pressman, www.pressmanandassociates.com)
Parenthood
is one of the major transitions in adult life
for both men and women. The stress of the
non-fulfillment of a wish for a child has been
associated with emotional squeal such as anger,
depression, anxiety, marital problems and
feelings of worthlessness. Partners may become
more anxious to conceive, ironically increasing
sexual dysfunction and social isolation. Couples
experience stigma, sense of loss, and diminished
self-esteem in the setting of their infertility
(Prasanta Kumar Deka,
Swarnali Sarma, 2010).
The infertile couple may experience
shame and embarrassment at their inability to
conceive naturally. When the couple presents
with their suspicions that one or both have
infertility problems, it is imperative that no
blame be placed or reinforced. Infertility is a
problem for the couple and should be addressed
as a couple issues (Reed, Susan A., 2001).
Stress, depression and anxiety are described as
common consequences of infertility. A number of
studies have found that the incidence of
depression in infertile couples presenting for
infertility treatment is significantly higher
than in fertile controls, with prevalence
estimates of major depression in the range of
15%-54%. Anxiety has also been shown to be
significantly higher in infertile couples when
compared to the general population, with 8%-28%
of infertile couples reporting clinically
significant anxiety. The causal role of
psychological disturbances in the development of
infertility is still a matter of debate (Prasanta Kumar Deka, Swarnali
Sarma, 2010).
Proposed
mechanisms through which depression could
directly affect infertility involve the
physiology of the depressed state such as
elevated prolactin levels, disruption of the
hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis, and thyroid
dysfunction. One study suggests that depression
is associated with abnormal regulation of
luteinizing hormone, a hormone that regulates
ovulation.. Since stress is also associated with
similar physiological changes, this raises the
possibility that a history of high levels of
cumulative stress associated with recurrent
depression or anxiety may also be a causative
factor (Prasanta
Kumar Deka, Swarnali Sarma, 2010).
Infertility
comes as a severe shock to couples who have
probably taken their fertility for granted. It
presents them with one of their first major
crises together. This life crisis can lead to
many reactions, often following a pattern, but
varying in degree from person to person.
Surprise.
Their
infertility obviously comes as a surprise to
couples who have taken normal fertility for
granted, have used birth control, and even
planned their families. Ignorance of normal
fertility and unrealistic expectations may well
aggravate their surprise.
Denial.
Although
it may seem illogical, this mechanism does
occur, and it seems necessary to allow the mind
and body to adjust to the newly discovered
infertility problem. Comments such as "1 don't
really want a child anyway" are frequently made,
even though the person really desperately
desires to become pregnant.
Anger.
Once a couple acknowledges
infertility and goes for investigation and
treatment, to a varying extent control of the
couple emotional and physical wellbeing is
surrendered to medical personnel. This may
result in anger. Such anger can be real and
directed towards family members who continually
ask about the absence of children or offer
inappropriate advice such as "Go away on
holiday" or "Stop working". The anger may not
appear rational and directed towards their
partner, doctor or social groups. It may be
important to ventilate this anger with
professional assistance. If this does not occur,
frustration, mistrust and embarrassment will
ensue, which can further aggravate the next
reaction, viz. isolation.
Isolation.
Infertile couples often feel alone.
This is partly explained by the fact that
sexuality is often equated with fertility. Thus
the couple or one of the partners may feel too
embarrassed to discuss the fertility problem.
Isolation is thus further increased. Isolation
may also lead to the indirect acceptance of
advice, often inappropriate, or the use of
alternative scientifically unproven non- medical
options. Unfortunately this also makes them fair
game for unscrupulous "non-medical
practitioners". The isolation reaction also
prevents the seeking of support so badly needed
by the couple. To overcome this, fertility
education and contact with infertility support
groups may be helpful.
Guilt.
A
guilt reaction is common, and yet is often
difficult to explain. It can follow the
realization that one partner is the cause of a
couple's infertility problem, and thus is
denying the other partner a child. Sometimes an
infertile person will look for a guilty act to
put his or her infertility into a cause and
effect relationship, eg failure of religious
observance, premarital sex, abortion, unkind
wishes and so on. Guilt
is difficult to discuss and share. Furthermore,
guilt can add to the already poor ego strength
of an infertile person and increases the feeling
of being bad. The guilt feeling may lead a
person to try and "atone for his or her sins"
and he or she may often seek some form of
religious assistance. Guilt can also lead to
self-destruction attempts through alcohol,
drugs, apathy, weight loss or gain. Obviously,
in reality there is no relationship between an
individual's worthiness and fertility!
Grief.
If
a couple fails to have a child or gives up
trying, grief is an inevitable result. For the
non-grieving person, whether the other half of
the couple, a close friend or a relative, it is
exceedingly difficult to understand how one can
grieve over a child who never existed. However,
the grief is just as real and painful, possibly
more so, than if a real loss had occurred. Real
losses have various related rites that help
overcome grief, whereas with infertility no such
rites exist. It should be recognized that the
grief expressed is real, and no attempt should
be made to prevent the person from expressing
it. Sometimes counseling may be needed to help
work through the grief. (www.fertilityeast.com.au)
Can this grief be described by
“five grief stages” (by Elizabeth Kulber-Ross)
again as represented above: denial, anger,
bargain, depression and acceptance?
Feelings of sadness, depression,
anxiety, and preoccupation with infertility are
common. In the literature this is referred to,
in part, as anticipatory grief: “We are
mothers in our hearts before our babies find
us.” This phenomenon occurs even with otherwise
happy, well-adjusted women. (Pamela
Fawcett Pressman, www.pressmanandassociates.com).
Recently
in social network communities, this phenomena
has been named as “EAS: Empty Arms Syndrome”,
what correctly describe emotional and
psychological feeling following gradual loss of
hope to be parents.
Infertility can be classified on as
an ambiguous
loss.
Ambiguous loss occurs
when a loved one is physically present, but
psychologically absent. With no official
verification of death, no possibility of
closure, and no rituals for support, there is
no resolution of grief (Boss 1999). In case of
infertility, the “baby” is very much
psychologically present, but physically not a
tangible presence (D. Harris, 2011).
It
is important to remember that:
The
reactions may affect each member of the couple
to a different degree, in different combinations
and this may lead to serious effects on a
couple's inter-personal communications.
These
reactions, often linked with poor
communications, can easily affect the couple's
sex life, which in turn can further aggravate
their relationship, and so a vicious cycle is
set in motion (www.fertilityeast.com.au)
In general, in infertile couples women show
higher levels of distress than their male
partners; however, men’s responses to
infertility closely approximate the intensity of
women’s responses when infertility is attributed
to a male factor3. Both men and women
experience a sense of loss of identity and have
pronounced feelings of defectiveness and
incompetence. Emotional stress and marital
difficulties are greater in couples where the
infertility lies with the man. Therefore the
psychological impact of infertility can be
devastating to the infertile person and to their
partner. (Prasanta
Kumar Deka, Swarnali Sarma, 2010).
The three factors, in order of importance for
the women were,
1. "Having Children is a Major Focus of Life"
2. "The Female Role and Social Pressure"
3. "Effect on Sexual Life"
The men in the study reversed the order of
importance of factors 1 and 2. The third factor
was equally significant to both the men and
women. Women experienced their infertility more
strongly than the men. Women also showed a
more intense desire to have a baby than men
(Prasanta Kumar Deka,
Swarnali Sarma, 2010).
Women (rather than men) almost
always experience a greater degree of emotional
distress with infertility. A man’s distress,
however, tends to be more focused on how to
support his distraught female partner and infuse
her with his optimism for a successful outcome.
The intensity of emotional distress a woman may
experience is often surprising, even to her. She
may feel distraught each month that she has a
failed attempt at pregnancy. Once a woman has
made the emotional shift to motherhood, each
month without a child may feel empty. Women
describe it as “an aching in my heart.” For many
women, each month without a baby is a painful
loss, similar to grieving a deceased loved one.
Women may also experience shame,
guilt, or a feeling of inadequacy. Pregnancy has
long been associated with womanhood, and failing
at something so fundamental to a woman’s
identity can be a terrible blow. A woman may
search her mind for what she “did” to cause the
infertility and unfairly blame herself. Often,
women and couples “hide” their infertility
struggles as they continue to fulfill daily
obligations, carrying the secret burden of a
life crisis. (Pamela Fawcett Pressman, www.pressmanandassociates.com)
Depression or a history of
depression has been found to be associated with
a decline in ovarian function and therefore may
also contribute to female causes of infertility
(Harlow et al. 2003).
Infertility in women may be caused
by ovulatory dysfunction caused by endocrine
dysfunction, polycystic disease, nutrition or
stress, uterine abnormalities such as fibroids,
Asherman's syndrome, or congenital
abnormalities, alterations in fallopian tubal
integrity attributable to infection or
endometriosis, cervical mucoid inadequacy,
and/or exposure to diethylstilbestrol in utero
(Reed, Susan A., 2001).
Male infertility factors include
ductal obstruction as a result of sexually
transmitted diseases or prostatitis,
hypogonadism caused by androgen receptor
deficiency, ejaculatory dysfunction, varicoceles
altering spermatogenesis, and gonadotoxin
exposure, including radiation, chemicals
(herbicides, organic solvents, etc.), drugs,
alcohol, chemotherapeutic agents, and anabolic
steroids.1,9,10 Often, causes of infertility in
both males and females can be identified and
treated by the primary care practitioner (Reed,
Susan A., 2001).
For
female,
psychological factors may decrease the libido
and so reduce the frequency of intercourse. They
may also lead to painful spasm of the "vaginal"
muscles, so preventing intercourse from taking
place. These factors
may also exert their influence on the woman's
pituitary gland and interfere with ovulation.
This in turn may lead to changes in her
menstrual cycle such as absence of periods or
irregular bleeding (www.fertilityeast.com.au).
For
male,
psychological factors may work in one of two
ways. Firstly,
they can affect his performance of the sexual
act, causing failure of erection (impotence) or
reduction of sexual drive, thus decreasing the
number of times intercourse occurs over the
fertile period, if it occurs at all. Secondly,
psychological factors may affect the pituitary
gland and interfere with hormonal control of
sperm production. This not only reduces sperm
numbers but also may lead to adverse changes in
sperm quality (www.fertilityeast.com.au)
Usual coping strategies, such as
hard work and perseverance, are inadequate to
manage the crisis of infertility, which leaves
many women and couples unsure of how to cope and
feeling a loss of control. This loss of control
is what many women find most difficult to
handle. It is also the reason why patients can
be irritable or angry at treatment staff. (Pamela Fawcett Pressman,
www.pressmanandassociates.com)
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